SuppliedThis is a shout out to all those ladies who have left a one-night stand early because the sex was subpar. It’s okay girl, I’ve got your back. You, my friends, have contributed to the half-night stand revolution: a pop culture trend that I think all men and women should be aware of, and here’s why.
In October, Cosmopolitan published an article, “The Rise of the Half-Night Stand,” which addresses women’s frustrations after having one-night stands that were not entirely satisfying. As a result, they don’t bother spending the night just to experience the societal judgment that is the morning-after walk of shame. No girl, you leave early.
Cosmo interviewed 10 men who had all been “half-nighted” and “not one of them believed the woman’s lack of sexual pleasure contributed to her leaving before morning.” And one guy — the epitome of male egotism — confidently stated that he “know(s) (he) is the best at (sex).” Looks like Buddy needs an intervention.
I’ll admit I’m making some assumptions about the male sexual experience since I have no personal insight being of the female variety. But TV shows, movies, and that “I Just Had Sex” song — clearly reliable resources that don’t play off of gendered stereotypes at all — tell me that men are thrilled to simply have sex, even if it is just subpar. For example, “Woo-hoo, I just got laid!,” said Bro.
Women on the other hand may expect a little bit more than that. I’m not talking about the overhyped “let’s cuddle” moment after sex that turns into men embodying the big spoon and receiving a face full of hair, but it’s an option too. I’m more so talking about the difference in male and female orgasm statistics: according to Cosmo, apparently men orgasm 95 per cent of the time, while women orgasm only about 57 per cent of the time. For a lot of women, it’s harder to reach that climax from sex itself and it’s clitoral stimulation brought on by foreplay that seems to help those percentages.
So why is this important? With apps like Tinder, more and more people are entertaining the idea of casual hookups. To me, a one-night stand implies a one time thing where two people have sex with the intention that both parties will have an enjoyable evening. So why not discuss your likes and dislikes in the bedroom and disclose what you’re looking for prior to hooking up in order to maximize your potential sexual satisfaction?
What do you have to lose? You’re never going to see him again, and if you’re going to commit to another notch in your belt, you may as well make it worthwhile. Plus, he might learn a thing or two that may benefit the women swiping right on his profile once you’re done with him. So, from one woman to another just trying to help a sister out, may your one-night stands be satisfying and may your orgasms keep coming.
